Sunday, April 19, 2015

Title: “Look, Ma! BOTH hands!"

“LOST MUSKET DIARY” Sunday April 19, 2015
Sunny and Sight Haze 79°F/26°C in Rancho Santa Margarita
Buongiorno,
Something New
  On Tuesday, I was finally allowed to take my right arm out of its sling. At first it felt that my newly-repaired right wing would simply fall off my shoulder onto the floor. “Just let it dangle for a few minutes. Lean over the desk or counter top and wiggle your hips so the arm moves,” Ronny advised me. “Do this about five or six times a day. It’s still healing, so, go easy.” That was Tuesday. This morning, I was finally able to put my shirt on by myself and use both hands to pull up my shorts. Progress is Our Most Important Product, went GE’s old motto. A Journey of a Thousand Miles Begins with a Single Step, said Mao Tse Tung as he set out on The Long March. For me, the road back began with a wiggling of the fingers on my right hand. Now, my right arm is again helping my left arm to pull my pants up.
  Ronnie Escudero is the Physician’s Assistant to my orthopedic surgeon, Dr. Jeff Sodl. He did my pre-op evaluation, assisted in the surgery, and checked me out two weeks after the operation. I’ll see him again in about three weeks. That’s not to say that the top guy hasn’t spent a lot of time with me, but I was unconscious for most of it. One of my last recollections I had before the anesthesiologist put me under was Dr. Sodl, Magic Marker in hand, asking me which shoulder he was supposed to operate on. I confirmed that it was my RIGHT shoulder and, he began to scribble on it. “There,” he exclaimed. “’X’ marks the spot with MY initials, so that I know I’ll get it right.” Gratefully, I slipped into unconsciousness. Sure enough. When I came to in the recovery room a few hours later, my right arm was in a big sling brace, and everyone around me was talking at once. “Can you wiggle your fingers?” someone asked. I wiggled my fingers. “Can you feel this?” somebody else asked as they started poking my arm. I nodded in the affirmative. Someone else pushed a button attached to a plastic tube into my left hand. “Here’s your morphine drip,” said another voice. “If you feel any pain, push the button.” Good to have it handy, but I have yet to experience anything beyond a mild discomfort during the whole process.
  Since, I’m not allowed to drive for at least the next month, I’m spending a lot of time at home, reading or writing for my blog or website, or yakking with friends via Skype or chatting it up on Facebook. Quite a bit of TV time, too.  Last weekend, I watched Harrison Ford chasing “the one-armed man” in the re-make of “The Fugitive,” and startled my poodle when I laughed out loud at the updated villain with his modern prosthetic arm, which only served to confuse our hero, Dr. Kimball.
  One item that crossed my desktop this morning was an email from one of my high school classmates, Judi Staib Harrison. (Our class held its 55th Anniversary Reunion in 2013, if that gives you an idea of just how far back we go together). It was another of Judi’s lists of what to expect when you get old, specifically, Perks of reaching 60 or being over 70 and heading towards 80: Now, I’m not going to burden you with the whole list, but, here are some that I especially like:
·        In a hostage situation, you are likely to be released first.
·        No one expects you to run--anywhere.
·        There is nothing left to learn the hard way.
·        Things you buy now won't wear out.
·        You can live without sex, but not your glasses.
·        You get into heated arguments about pension plans.
·        You don’t think of speed limits as a challenge, but as a goal.
·        Your investment in health insurance is finally beginning to pay off.
·        Secrets are safe with your friends, because they can't remember them either.
·        Most importantly, never, ever, under any circumstances, take a sleeping pill and a laxative on the same night. 
Oh, and lest we forget. On this Day in History:
1775 – Almanac says - American Revolution begins - Lexington Common, shot "heard round the world!” This, in spite of Longfellow’s account:
“Listen my children and you shall hear
Of the midnight ride of Paul Revere,
On the eighteenth of April, in Seventy-five;
Hardly a man is now alive
Who remembers that famous day and year."
Ciao,
MikeBo

©Mike Botula 2015

Wednesday, April 15, 2015

“Hey! So Let Me Tell Ya About My Operation! Oy Vay!"


“LOST MUSKET DIARY” Wednesday April 15, 2015
Brilliant Sunshine, Windy and Warmer 83°F/22°C in Rancho Santa Margarita
Buongiorno,
  Every time someone asks me how my arm surgery is coming along, I’m reminded of Lyndon 
LBJ's Operation
Johnson, our most socially indelicate President, who is not only remembered for his part in the Vietnam War, the Civil Rights Act of 1964, and the War on Poverty but also for showing the world the scar from his gall bladder surgery. So, in the spirit of our 37th President, let me bring you up to date.
  After a couple of postponements and almost a year of procrastination, I checked into the hospital at the end of March, and checked out two days later with my right arm in a sling brace and a shiny new titanium joint installed in my shoulder. Dr. Jeff Sodl and his team had done some amazing work on me. And, so, after two weeks of being trussed like an extra in The Mummy Returns, I went 
OR Bound!
in for my two-week post-op checkup. First, the X-ray tech helped me out of the sling, and for a moment it felt like my arm would fall off on to the floor. But, it didn’t and it stayed attached while he took the x-rays. Then an LVN peeled away the bandages to remove the sutures. “Hmmm!” He said after a moment, “I don’t see any stitches or staples.” That’s when I showed off the fact that I really had read all the paperwork that I had been given before the operation.  “I think the doctor used Krazy Glue,” I said, launching into a history of that ubiquitous adhesive. “That’s what he did,” said the LVN. “He put you back together with a couple of screws and Krazy Glue!” “I’m OK with that,” I said. “In a world where they make repairs aboard the International Space Station with Duct Tape, I’m OK with Krazy Glue and a couple of screws.”
  Then, the Physician’s Assistant, Randy, checked it out. “Looks good. No sign of infection. Healing nicely. You’re good to go.” He showed me a couple of limbering-up exercises and warned me for the umpteenth time not to pick
Something New Added
up anything heavier than a hummingbird feather until the doctor gives the final clearance. He removed the pad and several straps that had kept my arm immobilized at my side and he sent me home to burn the shirt I had been wearing for two weeks and take a long, warm sudsy shower. Then he made another appointment for 30 days hence, warned me again about putting any weight on my arm and reminded me: no driving for the next month. The long, warm shower was an assignment that I tended to right after I returned from Lola’s morning walk.
   Later, as my daughter helped me on with a fresh shirt, I commented on the large, angry bruises on my side, chest and right arm. I looked like a sailor who had just survived a tavern brawl with a herd of stevedores.  Dana, my daughter, the veterinary
Thanks Dr. Sodl!
trauma center nurse, chuckled and said, “Orthopedic surgery can be rough, dad. It takes a lot of leverage to do what they did.” When she started regaling me with some of her experiences rebuilding hips, legs and other repairs on large animals, I got the visual. In a few weeks I’ll meet up with George, the physical therapist and start getting ready to throw out the first pitch of the 2016 season, and thus write the finale to a stupid maneuver of mine that dates back to my old Radio Days 42 years ago.
   When asked about it, I usually brush it off with a remark like “old sports mishap,” or “old baseball injury.” Actually, I was batting in a pre-game exhibition event pitting the KMPC disk jockeys against the wives or girlfriends of the California Angels baseball team. Saundra Willis, who was brand new to the station’s publicity department, persuaded me to bat as the “Designated Hitter,” which was a new position in the American League that year-1973. Since the great Nolan Ryan was pitching for the Angels then, I as the temporary DH for that game would be actually taking my idol’s place in the line-up. I was flattered. Saundra hooked me on the idea, and I agreed to go along with the gag. The night of the game, the jocks dressed up in major league baseball uniforms with the KMPC logo. Long time listeners to the station will remember the names: Dick Whittinghill, Geoff Edwards, Wink Martindale, Gary Owens, Roger Carroll, Johnny Magnus, Sonny Melendrez, newsman Dave De Soto and yours truly as Designated Hitter. “Where’s my uniform,” I asked Saundra. “Here it is. You get to wear the gorilla suit!” I balked, but she was a smooth talker and, after she batted her eyes a few times and patted me on the head, I suited up. At the appointed moment, I as DH with bat in hand bounded to the batter’s box.
"Now Coming to Bat, Mike Botula!"
Nolan Ryan’s wife lobbed a huge beach ball right over home plate. Obviously she had learned a thing or two from her husband. “S-T-E-E-R-I-I-K-E!” the umpire called, and the catcher picked up the ball and carried it back to the mound. Saundra, who was now playing the role of batting coach, approached me at the plate and we huddled. “You were supposed to hit the ball,” she said. “I couldn’t even see the goddam thing because of the gorilla mask,” I snapped. She adjusted my mask and as she stepped away, she instructed me, “You’ve got to hit it this time!” Dick Enberg’s voice came over the PA speaker. “One strike. Designated Hitter is waving the bat. Here’s the pitch!”  (Long pause) “A solid hit! Oh, my! Looks like he’ll go for four.” I swung the bat with everything I had. When I connected, the beach ball exploded in a cloud of white powder showering me, the gorilla suit, the catcher and Saundra with billows of talcum powder. In the stands, fans cheered me as I rounded third and headed for home. It was my personal “great moment in sports.”
   Only after the game did I feel the sharp pain in my right shoulder. I had seriously pulled a shoulder muscle when I over swung on that first pitch.  Years passed, the shoulder injury flared up from time to time, but it never really caused a problem until after I retired and old age began to catch up with me. I was eventually diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis which aggravated the old simian injury to my shoulder. By the time Dr. Sodl read my MRI and made his diagnosis, I was eligible for a complete shoulder joint replacement, the whole enchilada. So far we’re doing well on the comeback trail, but my baseball days are history.
  Ciao,
  MikeBo

© By Mike Botula 2015

Wednesday, April 8, 2015

When the Pope Lived Right Up the Street From Me!

“LOST MUSKET DIARY” Wednesday April 8, 2015
Partly Sunny 47°F/8°C in Rancho Santa Margarita
Buongiorno,
   To a little Methodist kid trundling off to Sunday school every week, and then stifling yawns all through Reverend Brown’s Sunday sermon afterwards, the Pope, somehow doesn’t loom very large in my childhood memories. He was a big deal to my Catholic cousins, but me? Nada! Let’s just say that Papal Admiration was for me, an acquired taste.
The "Pope" and I
About the only time I ever thought about the Pope was when he died. My old aunts would cry and wail “IL PAPA!” And his picture would be in all the papers with big, black headlines reading POPE DIES! Then, a month later the newsreels would show pictures of smoke coming out of a stove pipe and all the crying would stop and a new guy with a pointy hat would wave to everybody from the balcony. In 1978, this happened twice in a month’s time and when the smoke over the Sistine Chapel had cleared we had another new Papa. A Polish Pope – Karol Józef Wojtyła aka Pope John Paul II.
  John Paul II turned out to be a terrific people person, a real rock star among some very serious-looking folks, and his image was everywhere. People Magazine even ran a picture of him in ski gear, fresh off an Alpine slope.  Karol Józef Wojtyła, aka Pope John Paul II, was everywhere. John Paul II traveled around the world and millions flocked to his masses. Instead of his own jumbo jet like Air Force One, the Holy Father hitched a ride with Alitalia.And, it didn’t take very long before my neighbor up the street from me, Gene Graytak, started hearing from his friends and neighbors how much he resembled the new Pope.
The Real Pope John Paul II

  Since our kids went to the same school  together, my wife Donna and I ran into Gene and his wife Dottie occasionally at school functions, or since we all shopped at the market nearby, I’d run into him occasionally at the store. Then, one year as Thanksgiving approached and preparations for the neighborhood kids’ annual Gershon Place Thanksgiving Day Parade were well underway, my kids informed me that this year’s parade would have as its Grand Marshall, the POPE!
  From a small neighborhood event with some brave parents pulling their little kids dressed up as pilgrims and Indians down the street in their Radio Flyers on Thanksgiving morning, the neighborhood kids had gone big time with an equestrian team-a neighbor who had horses, real parade floats built especially for the occasion by a team of dedicated dads, and the marching band from nearby Foothill High School. This year, they had a Grand Marshal. The Pope! Sure enough! Come Thanksgiving Morning, all of the neighbors gathered on their front lawn to watch the parade, enjoy the music and catch a glimpse of “The Pope.” And, “the Pope of Gershon Place” couldn’t have gotten a louder or warmer reception if the parade had been led by Karol Woytila himself.
 
So, who's the real Pope?
Gene later told me that, with the encouragement of Dottie and his family, he had photos taken wearing the appropriate costumes, and shopped himself around to some agencies that specialized in representing celebrity lookalikes. It didn’t take long for his new career to take off. Gene had several sets of papal garments custom tailored for him. And, his public demeanor was always quite dignified and warm. As he also told me, “no pratfalls. No pies in the face. I always remember who I’m representing.” After he became famous, he was no longer “Gene,” or “Mr. Graytak” to anyone among his neighbors. He became the man he portrayed, the Pope. Gene Graytak was now, “Pope Gene,” or “Your Holiness,” said with a straight face, by the way. Shaking hands with Gene in his papal garb was the closest most of our friends and neighbors would ever get to shaking hands with the real Pope. And, no one who ever saw him during his pontifical period would guess that the new pope was a retired real estate broker.
  Then, one night in 1982, during her appearance on Saturday Night Live, singer Sinead O’Connor tore up a picture of Pope John Paul II and caused a huge uproar. As we watched her on our TV, my wife turned to me with, “Wow! I wonder if Gene Graytak saw THIS!” And, then I realized that What’s-her-name had just insulted our whole neighborhood! My friends and neighbors broke out the torches and pitchforks and waited for the other shoe to fall. We didn’t have long to wait. Vengeance is mine, sayeth the Lord! And, the Lord took his full measure.
Sinead's Dastardly Deed!
neighbors would not just see this as a cheap publicity stunt aimed at the far-away Pope, but they would really see Sinead O’Connor was dissing OUR FRIEND! OUR NEIGHBOR! Yeah! Sinead.
  A night or two after Sinead O’Connor’s appearance on Saturday Night Live, I stayed up to watch the Tonight Show. As he came out of the commercial break, Johnny Carson opened the segment talking about the weekend incident with Sinead O’Connor and led into a brief clip of O’Connor tearing up the pope’s picture. “Fine,” I thought, “now he’ll have something to talk about with his next guest.” And, guess who the next guest turned out to be? Right! It was my good neighbor, Gene Graytak, who politely thanked Johnny for having him on his show. Now, enough time has passed that I don’t remember exactly what was said, but Carson never addressed his guest by his title or name. He let the visual of “the Pope” carry the moment. And, when he got to the place where the pope’s picture was torn, Carson asked Gene, “Did that upset you, sir? Did it make you MAD.” Gene smiled and said, “I never get mad over things like this. They don’t bother me. And, besides I have a picture of my own.” With that, Carson’s guest/Pope displayed a big picture of Sinead O’Connor, and with a flourish tore it right down the middle. The audience roared.
  Gene really enjoyed his new role in life. He was always very mindful of the stature of the person he was portraying. “The people love Pope John Paul, and it shows in the way people react to me when I appear as the Pope.” And he added, “I guess I’ll have a career as long as the Pope is around.”
  I moved off the block a few years later and gradually lost touch with the Pope and my other friends and neighbors. In 2005 when I was in Rome for the first time, Mike and Laura and I walked past the hospital where John Paul II was fighting his last battle. All of Rome was preparing for another changing of the guard at the Vatican, which would take place two weeks later. But, all I could think of at that moment was, I guess our neighbor, Gene, will be retiring now.
Ciao,
MikeBo
© Mike Botula 2015




Sunday, April 5, 2015

Look! It’s the Easter Bunny! Is He Packin’?

“LOST MUSKET DIARY” Easter Sunday 2015 – April 5th Just Before Dawn
Cloudy 59°F/15°C in Rancho Santa Margarita
Buongiorno, Buona Pascua!

Easter Sunrise in California
 If I had still been in Rome when I woke up this morning, I think I would have gone to Piazza San Pietro and listened along with a couple of hundred thousand other folks to Pope Francis deliver his Easter message in person. But then, I would also have seen how hard it was raining and just turned on the TV and watched it that way. But, since I’m not in Rome, I’ll have to settle for watching the Easter sunrise over Santiago and Modjeska Peak – Old Saddleback from my patio. But, that’s not too shabby a deal if you've ever seen sunrise over Old Saddleback.
  So, here I am, sipping my coffee and wiggling my fingers, counting my blessings and waiting for the sun to come up. Today is “T plus 5 and counting.” Five days since Dr. Sodl and his squad of happy elves installed my new titanium and plastic right shoulder joint in the very first major surgery of my long life.
Having said that…I’m not going to bore you with a lot of detail about “my operation.” I’ll do something at greater length in the near future when I have some digital images to share with you. Since my typing style remains a bit cramped, I’ll be brief. Shoulder arthroplasty is a fascinating procedure and I’m pleased at the way Dr. Sodl and his surgical gnomes have worked their magic. No pain. Wiggling my fingers. Just DON’T come up behind me and tap me on my shoulder to get my attention.
   Today in History: 1974 - Then the tallest building, the World Trade Center opens in NYC (110 stories). Yesterday, April 4th 1968 was the 47th anniversary of the assassination of Dr. Martin Luther King in Memphis. Today, the big headlines deal with California’s drought and Jihad.
Again. Happy Easter! Buona Pascua!   
Ciao,
MikeBo

© By Mike Botula 2015

Friday, March 27, 2015

Another Trip Down Memory Lane!

“LOST MUSKET DIARY” Friday March 27, 2015
Sunny 91°F/33°C in Rancho Santa Margarita
Buongiorno,
   My retirement project is underway, but I honestly don’t know if I’ll live long enough to see it through, primarily because I had no idea that three generations of us were such shutterbugs. There’s
Grandma and Grandpa Botula
my grandparents’ generation of family portraits and snapshots…..my folks in their youth – courting, marrying, building a family, fighting the war, shaping the peace…..my brother and I growing up, building careers, marrying – yada, yada, yada! Now, here I am, long retired with boxes and boxes of family photos and documents that I’d like to keep out of the landfill. As a longtime newsman who’s seen a lot of history in the making, I’m sure that these boxes contain a few more good yarns that can be passed along to future generations of Botula “begats.”

Dana at 4
Then too, there’s my upcoming shoulder joint replacement surgery. I've been told that I won’t be allowed to drive for several months, which, in itself, gives me a lot of “no place to go” time. Fortunately, I live close enough to everything I need to survive. Trader Joe’s is within walking distance. So is the Canyon Grill. I've already arranged for transportation to therapy and post op doctor visits. My family and friends have pledged to help out, so I’m okay there, but, the one-armed man here is going to have a lot of down-time on his hands. What a great opportunity to bone up on my Italian for my next trip to Rome, and go through those boxes of baby pictures and get them all archived. I even have an outlet for all of this: my website –  www.mikebotula.com  and my blog – mikebotula.blogspot.com. So, in effect, I’ll be “self-publishing.”
Cousin Ralph, me and Mom-taking off!
  The latest tool in my kit is my new Epson photo scanner. It does prints, slides and negatives in black and white and color, and the package includes the software to make all the necessary tweaks on the photos, some of which are close to a hundred years old. As I go along, I’m reliving some pretty important times in my own life. In a way, it’s good therapy. Overall, I think I've lived a fairly happy and productive life, but there are the periodic jolts to remind me of opportunities missed or some events that I thought I had lived down. For sure, there have been triumphs and tragedies, trials and tribulations, but in the long run there are only
The Cub Scout-My son, Mike
a few things I would change.
Christmas 1979-Dana, Donna, Mike
  One thing became painfully obvious to me right at the start. Considering the fact that a great many of the photos I've been scanning are family snapshots circulated over the years by relatives and friends who were sharing family events and class pictures by mail. Very few of the pictures I’ve seen in this collection carry any kind of labeling information. A date here and there, and occasionally the names of the subject in ink or pencil on the back. Otherwise, I've had to rely on my own memory, family documents or a quick phone call to a friend or relative.
Next Generation: Jordyn and Jaydan
Considering the fact that the first generation on both sides of my own family have long since passed on, the documentation is sometimes difficult or impossible to come by. I can appreciate what a museum curator or historian faces in the process of documenting historical events.

Dana
  So while my narrative prattles on, hopefully you’ll find the accompany pictures interesting enough to keep following along.
 But, I know how easily people get bored with someone ELSE’s baby pictures or vacation photos, so I’ll keep this opening round brief.  If you follow my blog or visit my website, you may notice that I may not be posting as frequently. That has everything to do with the surgery next Tuesday, so please allow for a little recovery time. At least I’ll have something to do as I make my comeback and turn back into a two-fisted guy instead of the “one-armed man.”
Ciao,
MikeBo
©Mike Botula 2015 


Saturday, March 21, 2015

I Think Thomas Wolfe Had This Place in Mind!

“LOST MUSKET DIARY” Saturday March 21, 2015
Sunny 77°F/25°C in Rancho Santa Margarita
Buongiorno,
  To me, it stands to reason that anyone contemplating a return to their home town after a long absence will reflect on Thomas Wolfe’s line, You can’t go home again!
No Going Home Here
Forty five years after I graduated from high school, and thirty four entire years since I had even ventured back to my home town, I received an invitation to a class reunion. I opened the envelope, read it, and tossed it on my desk. What’s that, dad? My son, Mike, asked.  I showed it to him. You’re going, right? I stared at him. Of course, you’re going, dad, and you’re taking me with you. I've never seen where you and Uncle Packy grew up. With that bit of prodding, I made the reservations.
Downtown Riverhead
   To reach the town that I grew up in, Riverhead, Long Island, you’ll deplane at either JFK or La Guardia, maybe even Islip and take the Long Island Expressway east from New York City for a couple of hours until the Expressway ends. At the Expressway’s end you’ll drop onto New York State Highway 25, known to the locals as West Main Street. Go over the railroad tracks and keep going past the sign that reads, Welcome to Riverhead – Gateway to the Hamptons.  The big red brick building on the left is the Suffolk County Historical Society, right near the old Henry Perkins Hotel which is now a residence for senior citizens. But, in its day, it was Riverhead’s “happening place.” Just ahead, Roanoke Avenue veers off to the left. Peconic Avenue is a right turn, just past the Chase Bank at the corner. I remember when it used to be the Riverhead Savings Bank, and a crazy old lady named Amorette used to stand on the corner by the big clock, waving and greeting passersby and doing her part to help the cop on the corner direct traffic. (Main Street photos from Google Earth).  
Local Landmark- The Big Duck
   Except for my brother’s college graduation in 1969, I hadn’t set foot in the old hometown since high school. And now, in 2003, if it hadn’t been for my son, I may never have gone back. Back when I was growing up here, Riverhead was a bustling farming community on the edge of a famous resort area – The Hamptons. The big crops were: Long Island Potatoes, Long Island Cauliflower, and, of course, Long Island Duck. There’s still a great big concrete duck out on Flanders Road. It used to be a poultry store. Now it’s a museum and gift shop devoted to all things that go quack. And in an area where there used to be dozens of duck farms, there is only one left, out in Aquebogue where we had lived right after World War 2. The primary crops these days are wine grapes. Blight took care of the potatoes decades ago. Downtown shows its wear and tear and is obviously struggling to make a comeback from the urbanization that decimated small towns all over the country. Riverhead is still the county seat. But, after the U.S. Supreme Court’s “One Man One Vote” ruling back in the ‘60s, political power shifted west to the more populous areas closer to New York City. The Grumman aircraft factory that sprang up in the ‘50s in Calverton to the west of downtown provided thousands of high tech jobs until the Cold War ended.
  Further east, we see the newly restored Suffolk Theater on the left, and the Atlantis Aquarium on the right.
Tuthill Funeral Home
We pass the Tuthill Funeral Home on the left. Both my parents’ funerals were there. Mom died in 1961 from breast cancer. Dad died four years later. A stroke, the doctor said, but, I knew it was from a broken heart. Continuing east, we cross the Long Island Railroad tracks again. The line goes all the way out to Greenport. On the left is an old apartment house that my folks lived in when they first moved here in 1940. Further down on the left is our old house, at 810 East Main Street, the one where I spent most of my growing-up years. It’s been an office building since we sold it after dad died in 1965.
Where Packy and I Grew Up
  From here it’s an easy drive out Main Street to the junction of County Route 58, where East Main Street becomes Main Road through Aquebogue, Jamesport and on to Mattituck and Southold. It’s this stretch of highway that Thomas Wolfe had in mind when he said what he did, because the Old Aldrich Home, the eleven room mansion that we lived in when my folks first came back to Riverhead after World War 2 is now a derelict leftover from better times, abandoned lo, these many years and left to crumble as the years pass by. We pass this splendid ruin on our way down the road to the Modern Snack Bar. I am shocked by the sight of it, and a wave of sadness overwhelms me.  This is where we lived when my little brother took his first steps.
Charles "Packy" Botula - First Steps 1946
I started in the first grade at Aquebogue Elementary School, just a short walk past Downs General Store and Post Office. The house was once owned by the Aldrich family, very well known in these parts. It was built in 1873 when sailing ships still outnumbered the steam-powered craft in the waters around Long Island. In fact, the legend was that it was built by a sea captain named Aldrich who designed the home to provide a high vantage point at the top so his wife could look out to the bay nearby and catch a glimpse of her husband’s sail. In fact it was built by John Elliot Aldrich who crafted homes for the rich and famous, and was about to start construction on a summer home for railroad magnate E.H. Harriman, when he died in 1906.  So, it may be that Aldrich, the builder, crafted the mansion for a prosperous sea captain. No matter how it’s told, it’s a good story.
Mike and Packy Botula 1946

  My folks faced some tough times during that period. Post-war housing was extremely scarce. America was being challenged finding jobs and homes for all those returning veterans and their new families. Years of war-time privation left an almost uncontrollable desire to buy things. Dad would often tell the story about how the family moved five times in eleven months right after the war. During 1946 and 1947 the only places for rent were vacation rentals, summer bungalows that weren't designed for year around living. No insulation. No central heating or air conditioning. But somehow we did it. Mattituck, Jamesport, Aquebogue. In Jamesport we didn't even have a fridge. The ice man would deliver ice for the icebox twice a week and Packy and I would get our baths in an old Wheeling galvanized wash tub with water heated on the stove. We stayed in each place for a few months at a time. Then, fortune smiled and the house on East Main Street became our home until our parents died in the 1960s.  When we moved from Aquebogue right after the war the old Aldrich House was already well showing its age.
   The last time I was back in Riverhead, in 2013, the old house was looking positively deplorable. Another family had purchased the property from the Aldrich family, and now the old house is known locally as The Old Corwin House. It’s one of more than a dozen historic homes that have fallen into disrepair and sit, abandoned and forlorn across the landscape of Long Island’s North Fork. A recent grass roots effort to declare this stretch of the highway a designated historic area foundered in a deluge of bickering among the affected property owners.
 Surviving classmates from our Class of 1958 are already talking about a 60th anniversary reunion in 2018, which would be the most likely event to draw me back home. If that happens, I don’t know what the old house would look like by then. Maybe I’ll be greeted by a vacant lot. Maybe, if there’s a miracle, someone will restore it and turn it into a Bed and Breakfast. Or maybe it will just continue to rot. Supporters of the Main Road Historic District Initiative say they are determined to try again. But, for the time being, the Old Aldrich house continues to decay. I guess in this case, Thomas Wolf is right in saying, you can’t go home again. But, one of my old homes is still in view, and the sight of it for me is excruciating.

Ciao,
MikeBo
©Mike Botula 2015

Sunday, March 15, 2015

My Life: Flashing Before My Eyes!

“LOST MUSKET DIARY” March 15, 2015
Sunny 89°F/32°C in Rancho Santa Margarita
Buongiorno,
   My new Epson photo scanner arrived a couple of days ago, and after a day of folding the new device into my home office operation, I am proceeding with my memoirs. There’s nothing like wading through cartons of baby pictures and family snapshots dating back through the last hundred years to help me as I while away the otherwise idle hours of my retirement.

Mom in the 1920s
  I promised my brother back in 1965 when we were closing up the house after our father’s sudden death, that I would someday devote the time to writing our family story. Our mother had died in 1961 from breast cancer and the sudden stroke that killed dad four years later totally shattered the generational continuity that most families take for granted. My own children were not born until years later and Packy and his wife didn’t have any children. We had already moved away from our home town and on with our lives. I was living in Arizona, newly married and my brother was going to college in upstate New York. Before he died, dad had drawn up his will which directed that our family home be sold to pay any debts that remained after the long illness of our mother. A family therapist counseled me years later that the event was of the same magnitude as losing our home and parents in wartime. I couldn't help but agree.
   “One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure it's worth watching,” sings Gerard Way-musician, comic book writer. My family photo project is like that. But, in my case, my life is not flashing before my eyes. It’s moving in very slow motion - from my arrival in New York City in 1941 until now.  As someone who spent a substantial part of his working career as a journalist and student of history, I feel that I have been in training for this project all of my life.
Me and "Bucky" 1944
Lift the lid. Put the photo face down on the glass. Lid down. Hit the “scan” button. Repeat process. It’s an excruciating revisiting of countless “Kodak moments.”  Hell! That’s almost three quarters of a century. What’s more, my doctors who have gone over me with a whole host of high tech diagnostic tools have pronounced me in good health and tell me that there’s a lot of mileage left on this old carcass. That tells me that I at least have some more time to review my life and sort out the family photos and put them into some cohesive form that can be passed along to the next generation of family and future historians looking at life in the mid to late 20th century and the early years of the 21st. 
   A thumbnail version of our family history can be told in pretty short order. Both sets of grandparents migrated to the U.S. around 1900. Mike Percy and his Margaret from England – he’s my mother’s dad. Karel and Johana Botula came here from what is now the Czech Republic. Both started from the ground up, as
Charlie and Mary - Wedding Day 1937
coal miners. Both raised 9 children. My mother and father met around 1930 in Pennsylvania. Their home towns were just a few miles apart.  Mary Percy studied nursing. Charlie Botula majored in Business Administration at the University of Pittsburgh, and became the first one in his family to graduate from college. During the Depression and after nursing school and college, both headed for New York City, where they married in 1937 and set up housekeeping in Sunnyside, just across the East River from Manhattan in Queens. Charlie, who had been working as a loan officer was promoted to manager and transferred to the far distant hamlet of Riverhead, about 75 miles east of New York on Long Island. I joined them in January 1941, just as the Depression was grinding to a close and just before the Japanese attack on Pearl Harbor brought us into World War Two.
    So, in terms of my family photo scanning project, I have spent several weeks like an archaeologist sifting through pre-historic times, for me, in my family. Like an archaeologist, I’m sorting through “ancient” artifacts in a quest to understand what life was like before I came into the world. It’s an odd feeling that arises when you are conscious of the fact that the ancient society you are studying is your own family. But, the longer I delve into this history, the more I come to know about my family. What’s even more important to me is that I better understand the elements that have shaped my own life, and have made what I have become as a human being. I’m beginning to solve some of my own life’s mysteries.
   The “War Years” have shaped our family in so many ways, that I can’t even begin to count them, much less explain to you how. The Depression shaped the families that Karel and Johana and Mike and Margaret raised to a cohesive and productive adulthood. ”Steel is made in the heat of the furnace,” my grandfather used to say. The Depression forged two strong families in my grandparents’ generation. World War II shaped my generation. Having been to Europe a number of times myself and listening to my father recount his round trip by wartime convoy across the Atlantic, I think I have a better appreciation than most, just what my grandparents’ journey from the “Old Country” to America entailed from the standpoint of a life-changing experience. They left the friends and families and even the language that they had known their entire lives for the promise of a new and better life in a strange land. For a lot of people like them, it became a promise unrewarded, but overall, they were lucky.

Dad's Job in 1944 - Normandy
   My father was commissioned in the U.S. Naval Reserve in 1943 with the rank of Lieutenant and assigned as Executive Officer on the LST 920, a 328 foot, flat-bottomed Tank Landing Ship specifically designed to carry Allied troops and their equipment onto the beaches of Europe, North Africa and the South Pacific as America’s two-ocean Navy waged a global war. Unlike World War I, which was fought primarily in Europe, World War 2 was a global conflict. Two “world wars,” one fought across Europe, and the other fought across the Pacific Ocean. Having grown up in the coal and steel country of western Pennsylvania where the nearest substantial body of water was Lake Erie, one hundred miles from his home in Cokeburg, Pennsylvania, my father was packed off along with thousands of other landlubbers, given a 90 day cram course in how to become an officer and a gentleman, and sent to sea with a lot of other young men who had never seen the ocean. When that happened, Charles and Mary had to give up their home in Riverhead. He sailed off to see a huge part of a world at war. She took her little boy back upstate to live near her parents.
  
1920s-Aunt Hannah, Uncle Ted,
My Grandmother and Dad
As I've combed through these cartons of old family photographs, I’m impressed by just how much of my parents’ lives has been documented. In my grandparents’ day, the family would troop down regularly to the town’s photography studio for an annual family portrait. Many of which survive in my archive.  As I grew up, I can’t ever remember a family event that didn’t include somebody showing up with an old Brownie or Argus box camera. The Navy pictures were amazing, but I didn’t know until I started talking to dad’s wartime shipmates that photography was supposedly forbidden aboard a Navy ship. But the crew of the LST 920 not only carried personal cameras to the beaches of Normandy and Okinawa, but they had their own clandestine dark room on board the ship, and the tacit approval of the ship’s skipper, Harry Schultz.
   I've come across a lot of snapshots taken during the war and in the immediate period after World War II when dad had come back from the Pacific. He and my mother regrouped and went on with their lives. When he returned in December 1945, he met his new son,
Mike, Charlie, Packy, Mary Botula 1946
Charles III, who I nicknamed “Packy,” and he had a new term of endearment for his wife. Henceforth, to my dad, she would be “Skip” Botula, short for “Skipper,” Navy slang for the captain of the ship. To his dying day, she was his “Skipper,” the helmsman who kept the good ship Botula Family heading on a straight course.
   So! This is my retirement project. And, if I live to be a hundred, I doubt that I will complete it to my own satisfaction, but I’ve gotten under way, and, there will be at least something that my daughter can show her children about the family history, and they in turn can pass along to their grandkids. 
Ciao,
MikeBo
©Mike Botula 2015